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Chapter 831 Internal Conflict

In the long run, when the external environment changes, they often cannot adapt and face greater crises. Analysis of the causes of the misunderstanding The formation of this cognitive misunderstanding is related to people's fear of risks and excessive demand for a sense of security. In the process of growing up, people have experienced various setbacks and failures, and gradually formed an instinctive fear of risks. At the same time, the admiration of a stable life in social culture also makes people think that stability is an ideal state of life. In addition, some people lack the ability and confidence to deal with risks and challenges, so they choose to gain a sense of security by maintaining the status quo, thus falling into the cognitive misunderstanding of "stability is everything, refuse to take risks". The solution is that true stability is not an unchanging life, but the ability to cope with challenges and start again no matter how the outside world changes. To break this cognitive misunderstanding, we must first correctly view the relationship between risk and stability. Risk is not equivalent to failure, it also means opportunity and growth. When facing new opportunities, don't be afraid of failure blindly, but rationally analyze risks and benefits, evaluate your own abilities and resources, and try to take risks in a planned manner. Secondly, we must constantly improve our abilities and competitiveness, and enhance our confidence and ability to deal with risks. By learning new knowledge and new skills, you can broaden your horizons and way of thinking, so that you can be more calm in the face of changes. At the same time, you must dare to break through your comfort zone, actively seek challenges and opportunities, and constantly exercise yourself and accumulate experience in practice. Only in this way can we get rid of excessive dependence on stability and achieve greater breakthroughs and development on the road of life. Life is a journey full of unknowns. Cognitive misunderstandings are like traps hidden on the road. If we don't pay attention, we will get into trouble. When you read this article, I hope you can take it as a warning and be alert to these 3 common cognitive misunderstandings. Adjust your way of thinking in time, find the right direction for your efforts, establish high-quality connections, and bravely break through your comfort zone. Only in this way can we walk more steadily on the road of life, realize our own life value, and reap our own wonderful life.

The "anti-internal consumption formula" that has gone viral on the Internet, and I personally tested it in 7 days and I became completely clear**In the modern society with information explosion and fast pace, "internal consumption" has long become a hot word that people frequently talk about. From repeatedly worrying about what to eat for dinner to worrying about future development and insomnia; from shrinking back due to excessive concern about the eyes of others to being stuck in the quagmire of self-doubt and unable to extricate oneself... These invisible mental internal consumptions are like a continuous "self-consumption war", devouring our energy and enthusiasm bit by bit. Recently, the "anti-internal consumption formula" that has gone viral on the Internet claims to be able to effectively break this dilemma. I personally practiced it with curiosity and expectation. Unexpectedly, in just 7 days, the state of the whole person has undergone earth-shaking changes, and I really experienced the long-lost clarity and ease. . Daily life dominated by internal consumption: What are we consuming? Internal consumption, seemingly invisible, actually affects our quality of life and life state. In order to understand internal consumption more clearly, let's review those familiar and helpless scenes. In the workplace, Xiao Zhang is always troubled by various trivial matters. He clearly had his own ideas about the tasks assigned by the leader, but he didn't dare to express them, for fear of saying the wrong thing and causing dissatisfaction with the leader; in teamwork, a look or an ambiguous comment from a colleague could make him ponder for several days, and even suffer from insomnia. Even if he completed the work, he always felt that he didn't do it well enough, and fell into deep self-denial. This state of excessive concern for others' opinions and constant self-doubt made him exhausted and inefficient at work. He didn't do much actual work, but he felt physically and mentally exhausted. In life, Xiao Li was also tortured by internal friction. She wanted to lose weight and made a detailed plan, but when faced with the temptation of delicious food, she had a fierce struggle in her heart: if she ate, she felt sorry for her plan and full of guilt; if she didn't eat, she couldn't help but be greedy and repeatedly entangled. This hesitation and struggle between doing and not doing not only consumed a lot of her energy, but also made her mood irritable. From a psychological point of view, internal friction is essentially a self-contradiction and conflict. When there is inconsistency between our thoughts, feelings and behaviors, or when there is a gap between our inner expectations and reality, internal friction will be triggered. It will not only affect our mental health, leading to negative emotions such as anxiety and depression, but also damage our physical health, causing insomnia, headaches, decreased immunity and other problems. Being in a state of internal consumption for a long time will make us lose our passion and motivation for life, fall into a negative and confused state, and it will be difficult to achieve self-growth and breakthroughs. . Revealing the "Anti-Internal Consumption Formula": Four simple steps to break the dilemma of internal consumption. Faced with the various troubles caused by internal consumption, the "Anti-Internal Consumption Formula" that has been circulated on the Internet has undoubtedly brought hope to countless people. This formula consists of four key steps. It seems simple, but it contains profound psychological principles and practical life wisdom. The first step: Awareness-facing internal consumption is the beginning of change. The first step of the "Anti-Internal Consumption Formula" is awareness. Just like walking in the dark, the first thing we have to do is to light a lamp and see the surrounding environment clearly. Awareness is the lamp that illuminates internal consumption. When we feel anxious, entangled, and tired, we might as well stop, calm down and ask ourselves: "What am I thinking about now? What are my emotions? What triggers such feelings?" For example, when you are depressed because of a criticism from a colleague, don't immediately fall into self-denial or anger, but try to observe your inner activities: "Why am I sad because of this sentence? Is it because I feel that I am really not doing well, or because I care too much about other people's opinions?" Through such self-awareness, we can more clearly understand the root cause of internal friction, thus laying the foundation for subsequent changes. Step : Acceptance-Reconciliation with the imperfect self After realizing the existence of internal friction, the next thing to do is to accept it. We often feel dissatisfied and critical of ourselves because we cannot meet our own or others' expectations. But in fact, everyone has shortcomings and deficiencies. Accepting one's own imperfections is the key to stopping internal friction.

When we realize that we haven’t done well enough in something, we should not blame ourselves blindly, but try to tell ourselves: "I have tried my best. Thinking too much and doing too little will only make us sink deeper and deeper into anxiety and entanglement. Therefore, the third step of the "anti-internal consumption formula" emphasizes action.